Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Fuzzy_Tadpole_1006 on 2023-06-26 14:39:24+00:00.

30f. Been with "John" for 12 years now. For the past 6 years I have desperately wanted to flip houses. I've wanted to do this since I was a kid but these past 6 years is when I really started to get a bit fixated on it. Every single year I bring it up to my partner and every single year he says "that would be fun" and he will help me search for fixer-uppers but it's like he goes out of his way entirely to turn me against every single property that I want, that's within budget. Then, after a month or two of searching with me, he will find reasons why it can't happen this year.

Last year really sucked. I have all my own money saved. It's not like I need him financially or even need his approval honestly BUT given that this is the love of my life, I do want his approval, you know? So I've just sucked it up and given in to the "well it probably won't happen this year but it can be our 5 year plan" talks. But again, last year sucked because I found a property that I was absolutely in love with. I wanted it in the worst of ways. It was an old victorian home with 6 bedrooms, built in bookshelves and dressers, etc etc. It was only $6k. It needed work, obviously. The electric was bad, the plumbing was bad but there was no water damage and the roof/beams/frame was solid. I know how to do plumbing but electric would have been an issue. That would have been a thing I hired someone to do and it would have cost a good penny BUT the place was only $6k. I had well over $80k saved. I pulled numbers from the surrounding homes and the RSV was roughly $190k for the area. I wanted it, desperately, and he found a reason for me to not get it (ie: "it's in a bad part of town"). So, I didn't get it.

Well, I stepped away from it all. I got a bit discouraged and just stopped looking. But I went on last week and that property was still listed. Same price. So, I told him I was getting it. I want it. He tried telling me it was a bad idea, there was too much work that needed to be done (I have the construction experience, he only has chef experience). I went and looked at it anyways. I determined that with my connections (dad and uncle- who both do construction, other uncle who does foundations, me- who does plumbing) it would only run me top dollar of $50k to renovate and I signed on the property and closed the same day for cash. He's mad at me for doing it and thinks it's a dumb investment.

ETA: we do not have merged finances. It is my money going in to the place. I understand house flipping is something that is often looked down on to some people. I'm not doing it is a "get rich quick" thing. The profit would just be a bonus. I truly just love renovating and it's something I've always wanted to do. If I fail, which I might, I'm not going to go cry about it.