Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/SeniorHumor on 2023-06-26 17:58:16+00:00.

This happened last week, I posted this on r/mildlyinfuriating, many people suggest to post here too.

I went to a mall to buy a pair of sunglasses. I met the sales attendant and asked for a specific pair of sunglasses. She immediately replied that they don't carry them in-store, and I'd have to order them online. She asked if I'm interested in trying any other pairs, and I said okay. We started talking through the process, and we hit it off really quickly and realized we have so much in common. I complimented her hair; it was beautiful. She started showing pictures of herself with long hair from her phone, and I did too. I had a man-bun a few months ago. We had a good time and great conversations. I ended up buying sunglasses and said thanks for the talk and that I like her.

She asked what I'm doing later and if I wanted to hang out after her work. She said she'd love to continue our conversations. We exchanged Instagram. We continued our conversations later that night.

Next day, I asked her if she wanted to get some coffee. She said okay, and I asked her to pick a coffee place where she feels comfortable. She replied that she would text me the place and time. Around 5 pm, she texted me the address of a fancy seafood place. I reminded her that we were only planning a coffee date. She said she wants to go to this restaurant, and we could have a good time there. I jokingly said, "Well, we're gonna have to split the bill." She didn't respond for some time. Then she said, and I quote, "If you can afford those sunglasses, you sure can afford to pay a fancy bill." I responded that I can pay the bill, but I won't because we're just getting to know each other, and that's why I suggested a coffee date. Next thing She called me cheap for not treating her at a fancy restaurant. I said it was nice knowing her.

Same day evening, I made a reservation at the same seafood place she wanted to go to, but the reservation is only for myself. I didn't invite her. I went there, had a nice dinner, took a photo, and posted it on my Instagram story. She is still added to my Instagram, and she saw it.