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AITA for telling my girlfriend I couldn’t commit to a life long relationship if she became a vegetable? (lemmit.online)

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/iAmMattG on 2023-06-26 04:24:23+00:00.

Long story short, I told my girlfriend I had a dream where she was wheelchair-bound. She proceeded to ask if I would stay with her in the event that happened. I told her “as long as you’re mentally coherent, of course”. Then the conversation turned into her getting upset because I couldn’t seem to find myself being able to commit to forever, in the event she was in a vegetable-like state. I told her if my quality of life was diminished enough due to her being in a poor enough state, it would be difficult.

All this being said, it was a complete hypothetical scenario. It still leaves me wondering… AITA? I’m curious what Reddit thinks here.

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[–] Cruxifux 1 points 1 year ago

Listen man, I’ve been married for a while. You’re gonna learn this eventually, but I’ll save you some fights.

If you’re talking with your wife about hypotheticals, like if you’d still find her attractive if she gained 300 pounds, or if you’d find someone else if she ever died or some thing, you lie. you say whatever the most romantic thing you can think of. Because it doesn’t actually matter, and it makes them happy. There is absolutely no point in being honest about something like that if it’s gonna hurt their feelings.

NAH necessarily, but trust me on this, you’re not handling this with a very beneficial strategy.