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I definitely have BO, but I can't smell my own, typically. however, I also just don't find the smell of sweat/BO particularly offensive.
I've started using not an antiperspirant, but a substance that acts like a deodorant, because my partner is VERY sensitive to smells and mine apparently sets her off pretty badly.
Dude... Maybe re read what you wrote and reflect on it?
There's a cliche of Internet folk with poor hygiene and it's something that should be addressed but it can be awkward for people to bring it up.
I think you should read their comment again. Their partner took one for the team and now they are exploring products that will limit BO. We know nothing about their hygiene based on this comment. Some people start to smell the same day they come out the shower.
I'm not against criticism, certainly the number of downvotes suggests I phrased it poorly or should have kept my views to myself.
I tried to present my views in a neutral manner without accusation. I used the term reflect because as you state I have no idea of the user's situation so it's for them to reflect.
I used a separate paragraph for the reference to hygiene in order to make a distinction between what I did and did not know. What I had hoped to raise was the distinction between hygiene and just applying masking products. But I didn't know how to communicate that without being more specific.
I apologise if I caused offense. None was intended. I'm some random person online, my views are my own, if I have caused offense I hope that can be easily dismissed as just another provocative voice online.
I get where you are coming from and I agree that a lot of people suffer from BO that can be easily remedied by better hygiene. Some have never learned the proper way to shower and some are depressed. Then there are those with medical issues. I think part of what makes the topic of hygiene so awkward to broach is that unless you know they are not showering, calling them out can be less than helpful.
That said, don't fret about the downvotes. They really don't mean much. And my comment was not meant to be harsh. I use italics for emphasis, but not to be rude. I hope this exchange does not discourage you to make comments!