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What "little" experiences changed the way you percieved things ? (self.asklemmy)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by needthosepylons to c/[email protected]
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Idk if "little experience" means something in English, but what I meant is non-life changing/threatening. Things that would otherwise go unnoticed.

For me, it was when I stopped drinking acoholic beverages because.. I ended up finding it boring, I guess.

I started noticing how low key hostile my environment is towards people who dont drink. People started thinking I was sick, depressed, converted to islam, being snob, etc.

Bartenders started to openly mock me when I asked for a lemonade (they still do) : "We dont do that here", "Go to a physician if you need that", "you're in a bar you know ?".

I started realizing how hostile my country/region/groups can be to people who dont drink. Never realized that before.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 14 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Understanding of the "normalcy bias" changed the way I think a lot. The general idea is that you'll tend to explain away and dismiss unusual things you see. In other words, people are hesistant to acknowledge when something isn't normal.

When you see something that strikes you as odd, I think it's good to understand that this bias exists. Avoid saying "oh, it's probably just XYZ", and actually try to work out an explanation. You may end up solving a situation you otherwise wouldn't have even realized was about to be a problem.

In the worst case, you'll just realize your initial instinct was right, and move on. In the best case, you'll be able to help with a situation that otherwise would have been neglected, and been allowed to become a serious problem.