Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Throwra_TriDate on 2023-06-26 00:16:57+00:00.

Obligatory sorry for grammar, format, spelling, fake names, etc. I (37M) was getting to know a woman named Emma (32F) who I met on a dating app. From talking to her online, I felt as though we had a connection. I asked her out on a date and she said yes. She asked if for the date we could drive separately to the restaurant. No worries.

The date: I show up 15 minutes early and she is already there. I go to give her a hug, let her know she looks stunning, and then ask the hostess if we could be seated a little early for our table for 2. She informs me that she changed the reservation and she had invited her friend Karley (35F). Turns out she had called and changed the reservation from 2 people to 3. I could also tell that Karley felt uneasy and was not informed about the restaurant as she was a little dressed down for the place.

I try to have a conversation with Emma, but she has her head in her phone and keeps her replies short. I look at Karley and she just looks like she wants to do anything but be here. We order drinks and appetizers then Emma leaves to go to the bathroom. Karley turns to me and apologizes. She lets me know she had no idea this was supposed to be a date. She was just told to get in the car and Emma was taking her to dinner. I ask her if Emma does this kinda thing regularly and Karley says kinda. Emma comes back at this point.

I try to engage with Emma in any meaningful way, but she just kinda refuses to interact and stays locked in on her phone. I started talking to Karley. At first it was a little weird, but the more and more we talked, the more I felt comfortable with her. I tried to get Emma to engage but never got anywhere. I had a blast talking to Karley and just kept at it. After the meal arrived, about 20 minutes after sitting down, I stopped trying to get Emma to talk with us and focused on Karley.

I pay for dinner and hand my number to Karley. Said I had a great time and would love to go on a date. At this Emma starts yelling. How dare you do this you are on a date with me. I said that I was supposed to be on a date with her, but that she had invited someone without informing me, spent the entire night on her phone, and that she had ignored me the whole night. She stated that she thought we were going to do other things that night and that she was “saving her energy” for that. Told her and Karley to have a good night and left. Emma yelled at me to talk to her and I yelled back she had all night to begin it’s too late now. I looked at Karley and said please call me.

My friends are split on this. So reddit AITA?

TLDR: Went on a date. She invited her friend and ignored me all night. Had an amazing conversation and chemistry with date’s friend. Asked friend out on a date in front of date.