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I've had problems with roommates on the spectrum that I rent out to who seem to think that they should ask for explanations of rules as a way of trying to argue. Normally I'd assume they're just trying to be jerks and look for backdoor ways of arguing or "concern trolling," but I'm open to the slim possibility that they don't actually understand or this is their way of trying to discuss it.

They also try to argue and play lawyer games when it comes to guilt. If I see a plate in their room, they're getting fined for eating in there. It doesn't matter if it was someone else because they allowed it.

It occurred to me that they might genuinely not understand what is going on.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I had a comment up here. I thought I was misreading the part about you fining your roomate. But after reading these other comments..

OP please explain what you mean by that. I assume you don't mean your demanding actual money in these cases. Because as the comments point out thatd be very inappropriate.

With my own roomate if they leave a plate out they'll get a lecture at most. I know they don't intend malace with such things it's just part of their adhd. They'd do better if they could.

I dont know your roommates circumstances, but can't imagine a scenario where not putting a plate away is an act if malace against you.