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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Throwaway_Any-Bread on 2023-06-24 14:44:52+00:00.
My dad recently passed, he has two kids myself (F29) and my brother (M28) but no other family.
My dad and I have always been very close. I call him most evenings for a chat and I try to see him once a week for a coffee despite it being a 1h drive to his house. Point is, I make an effort because I choose to as he is my dad and I love him.
On the other hand, my brother makes no effort despite living and working in the same town as him and being less than 10 minutes away. He also never calls dad nor makes any effort to spend time with him. Before he passed he called dad to go out for a drink with him and then stood him up. It broke my heart.
To the issue... My dad has basically left everything to me in his will. The house, car, all worldly possessions.
He did tell me this a few years ago and I had always been hoping the relationship between him and my brother improved so he was then on the will, but it did not.
My brother was expecting 50% of everything but upon seeing the will he is angry and very upset. He asked if I was going to give him anything and I said I'd have a think but I really don't want to?
My brother and I have never been particularly close and I don't want this to become an issue on the rare occasions we are at the same family function.
My mom and rest of her side of the family think I should split it but I feel like splitting it despite my dad actively not having him in the will kind of rewards or allows his behaviour of essentially only speaking to people when it suits him.
Am I the asshole for not wanting to split the inheritance?
NTA. There's a reason your dad wrote his will the way he did