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Resources to help me make the child or childfree decision (self.childfree)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by eccentric to c/childfree

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What helped you make the decision to be child-free? How do I be sure about what I want? Looking for recommendation - resources, articles, books etc.

My partner just let me know he would be ready to start trying in a year. My head just spun. I am not ready now at 31 (as a woman and my clock is going tick-tock) and I don't think I will ever be ready. I am neither excited about the process of birthing nor does a crying pooping tantrum-throwing machine excite me!

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

After battling with fertility for years, we were close to accepting to be child free and gave it a final try. So now I'm a 40+ parent.

I would have preferred to be in my 20s or 30s instead of 40s because the first several years children costs sleep and energy and when I look back my younger body would have handled it much better.

So my suggestion is: Make the choice sooner rather than later.