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Apps have a weird power structure. They make anyone feel like a beggar. Social hobbies are a better way to meet people if you live in a reasonably populous area. I personally have interesting accessories to give people an in to a conversation that traditionally works fairly well when at an event or in public. Homemade rings, and interesting watch, inordinary boots, a cool lighter, a fountain pen, antique thrifted jackets, necklaces made of fossils, anything stand out that someone can comment on if they take an interest in you starts a conversation and doesn't require begging the upper hand for attention like dating apps do.