Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aitaforkickingthemot on 2023-06-22 22:28:34+00:00.

She’s my ex girlfriend now technically. I (30m) dated Julia (25f) for a year. She’s fun and very beautiful and I was convinced we were going to make it all work.

Last month her lease ran out, and because she has a prior eviction on record and rent prices have soared recently she wasn’t able to secure another home in time. I own my own home, and since I didn’t want my girlfriend and her kids to be homeless I reluctantly agreed she could move in with me. I was somewhat on the fence about kids before, but I’d gotten along with her kids just fine all the times we’d hung out.

Once they moved in it was hell. They took over all my personal spaces, colored on my walls, made huge messes. I realized Julia does not clean up after her children well, she only did it when I’d come to visit her before. I felt like she deceived me into thinking she’s a good mom. All she did once moving in was sit on the couch while her children ran wild. She also said she has no money once she moved in and she expected me to pay for everything for her and her three kids.

After three weeks I snapped and packed up her stuff and the kids while she was at work and put it in my shed. I told her we were done and she and her kids can’t stay here anymore.

Where I live you only have rights if you’ve lived somewhere a month, so since it was only three weeks I was legally in the clear. I thought about giving her more time to find somewhere else to stay but that would just allow her to gain tenancy which means I would have to legally evict her which takes forever here. She showed up screaming and banging on the door, saying I was making her and her kids homeless. I feel bad, but if I’d never let them move in she would’ve been homeless anyways.

I feel like Julia pretended to be someone she wasn’t in order for me to support her. She says she’s been depressed but I don’t think that’s a good excuse to let her kids rub goldfish into my carpet.

AITA for kicking out my girlfriend and her kids before they could gain tenancy?