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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/FastMaintenance6271 on 2023-06-22 23:13:52+00:00.
Long story short, I'm a 31yo happily married man, to my 29yo wife "Hannah" of 9 years. With that said, she's experiencing some insecurities in both herself and our marriage because she is pregnant and feels "gross and undesirable". She is fearful that I don't find her attractive anymore since she is "a beached whale". I obviously do not feel this way. She's fucking beautiful and her glow is enough to turn every guys head. But again, she's insecure right now. No matter how much I tell her how perfect she is, she still feels some type of way.
We got a new female coworker a couple weeks back. Some 24yo blonde. Pretty girl. Very timid. I work in the welding business. Now, most of the people in my plant are not very approachable and where this girl is so timid (basically afraid of her own shadow) she has been using me as kind of a mentor. Asking me loads of questions, presenting her work to me to see if she's done it correctly and calling me when I'm not there to ask questions as well. She calls me at least once when I'm at home to ask if she's using the proper metal length and heat adjustments. I enjoy helping people so it does stroke my ego, but not in the way my wifes insecurities are telling her it is.
My wife has asked me to stop answering the phone when she calls. "There's other people there. I don't like her calling your phone like this." I told her I completely understand but I enjoy helping and tried to offer suggestions (I will only answer on speaker phone AND make sure my wife is right there). My wife is still bothered because she called me 3 times yesterday, once crying about something another coworker said (told her to go to HR). AITA?
Idk. Your wife isn't happy with you. Continuing the same actions will not suddenly make her happy with you.