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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ok_Fig_6450 on 2023-06-22 18:42:05+00:00.
Step daughter 17 and I don’t have a relationship nor any form of interaction for the last 2 years.
I used to be friendly to her and her two siblings. Helping here and there with what they needed; shopping, pick up & drop off to different activities plus I was also doing all the cooking, cleaning, entertaining, organizing trips and activities for all. But no matter how nice or helpful I was to her, I always felt rejected. Initially I thought it was normal and it was a matter of time for her to open up to me. Her other two siblings were simply cordial, which was fine to me.
Four years passed by and things got worse. She was only acknowledging me whenever she needed something, other than that, I was made feel like an object; no hello, goodbye, not even looking at me. We both could be in the same room and she’d just pass me by like if I was part of the décor. She was always wearing her AirPods around me and she was never helpful around the house (Neither her siblings).
I got tired of feeling used and rejected so I stopped doing anything with and for her. Husband was not happy at all. We had so many fights and arguments about it, but I stood my ground.
After two years of having peace of mind by not acknowledging one another, husband is out of town texting me that his daughter wants to know if she can email me some forms to print out and give them to her. Not only I said no, but also pointed out at how ballsy she was for requesting my help considering our situation. Also got mad at my husband for entertaining her request knowing how bad things are among us. Acknowledging me only when she needs my free services was one of the many reasons I wanted nothing to do with her. I had a big fight with my husband over the phone. He’s beyond upset at me and finds me petty.
Step daughter lives with her mom a couple blocks away from us. She has an older half brother that also lives in the neighborhood (they get along very well) Her mom has lots of friends and extended family, so clearly I’m not the only resource she has.
The task wasn’t going to take lots of my time and effort. Even thou it was requested at 10pm, I could’ve printed it out and left it in the front porch for her to pick it up In the morning.
So, AITA for not helping the step daughter with her simple request?
No. Sometimes you need to make a stand.