Am I the Asshole?

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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Doyoureallycare1310 on 2023-06-22 15:49:16+00:00.

I’ll try to keep this short.

25F here. I have been dating my boyfriend since 6 months now. We studied at university together and even though I wanted to move back to my home country, I chose to stay with him and find a job. Everything was going great until he told his parents about us sometime back.

The first time I spoke to his mom, she basically was ranting to me for 30 mins straight that we should get married as soon as possible. I didn’t want to be rude or create a scene. So I gently tried to tell her that I’m trying to find a job first and focus on my career for a bit. I told my boyfriend later that I didn’t appreciate her asking us to rush things (we had only been dating for 6 months and I’m just 25!). He spoke to his parents and said that it wont happen again.

The next time his mom spoke to me on call. It was the same bullshit. This time telling me to have kids soon too. A short while later, they were visiting us. And I basically told her that I didn’t like a few things she mentioned to me over call the last time. She became really hyper and said that it is normal for parents to get involved in their kids lives, marriage and babies. I basically said that in that case, she should talk to her son about it and not me since I’m not her child.

My boyfriend gave me a lot of shit later for saying that to his mom. He said that ‘this is how his mom is’ and ‘this is how things are’ and if I want to be with him then I need to learn to ignore whatever his mom says. Cause afterall, it wasn’t like she was tying my hands and getting me married forcefully. AITA?