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Best experience: A bunch of strangers getting bored during lockdown and setting up an impromptu hemotology class to amuse each other. This eventually became more of a generalized whatever-today's-instructor-likes class after one user stole the entire show with their brilliant rant about chemistry.
He and I were pretty good friends for a while and though parting ways was inevitable, I'm still sad to have had to. We can't get along, but I do miss him and I wish him well.
Worst experience: every time I posted anything about my mental situation ever. Without fail, ฤฐ would come away with multiple of the shallow, dismissive "oHH, if everywhere smells like shit, check your shoes!!" reply. They've never taken the time to think it out, but they know it's snarky enough to win upvotes and shut down the conversation.
I'm forced to assume the people parroting this are themselves abusers irl, because that's sure as shit not a sentiment r/raisedbynarcissists would take well to. Or really any PTSD-centered community/professional. Trying to convince the victim it's their fault is a common tactic, it's what the R in DARVO stands for.
If I needed someone to tell me I deserved to get beat with a table leg, I'd still be talking to my mom.
Yeah, talking about those issues outside of a support specific community is hell. I absolutely hate a common thing that happens in r/insaneparents when a parent is clearly being beyond abusive and some people in the comments DEFENDS the abusive parent. Like, isn't the purpose of the sub to mock and call out abusive parents?
You can smell from a distance the redditors who clearly lack empathy, had perfect lives so they can't believe someone would have such traumatic experiences, or might be abusive IRL.