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I'm at a crossroads in life where I need to start making large and impactful decisions about my future. It's a very lonely place to be.
Will my long term relationship last? Do I want it to? Will I try to stay in this (IRL) community? Do I want to? Will I stay in this career path? Can I afford not to?
Etc.
Usually I'd talk to my partner about all this, but because our relationship is also part of my issues, I feel like I can't. So as a result... I'm feeling lonely and overwhelmed.
That's really tough. I'm sorry you feel like you have no one to talk to, especially when you're considering such tough decisions. If it's worth anything: it is my opinion that at some point it's ok to be "selfish" and consider the things that will make you a happier, healthier person in the long run so that you can then share this "better person" with someone who deserves it. Take a break, assess, regroup and start over. You got this!!
Thank you, kind stranger! I appreciate it. :)
I was there 5 years ago. We mutually decided to break up and it was really rough at first. When I met my current partner last year, I started to realize just how toxic that last relationship was. I found myself realizing that I didn’t have to walk on eggshells anymore. When you meet the right person, you’ll know because you won’t have as many of those kinds of doubts.
Are you me?
Seriously, I feel you. I recently had a big life change to something that I thought I wanted to do. Turns out, it isn't even close to what I expected. Not that it's bad. Most people would consider it their dream. But is it what I want to do? I dunno.
It feels like I've just been following everyone elses dream. I wish I could just do a long walk about. Like hike the apalations and really consider what I want for me. Unfortunately, I have people that depend on me, so I can't.
I did start therapy recently and it's been a huge help.