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Do you think that lacking material conditions under captalism is what prevents many people from getting into relationships or finding partners and or friends in general? (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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So there is a loneliness epidemic caused by capitalist alienation. However, I wonder if lack of material conditions also adds to this. I just keep seeing lots of my broke guy friends depressed because they can’t find a partner and it is so hard for them to meet new people. This makes me wonder if their financial situation is the main reason.

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It could definitely play a role. Emily Nagoski's book puts forth the "dual control model" of sexual motivation. You have the accelerators, which are things what get you all hornt up, and you have the brakes, which are things that you have to urgently take care of before you can prioritize having sex. If you're not financially secure in modern America it will be hard to relax enough to have sex. If you press on the accelerator and the brake really hard for long enough you can get a kind of incel situation going on. It's not a good place to be in.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What do you mean by “pressing the accelerator and the breaks at the same time”?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Present people with situations that are sexually relevant but leave them without the bandwidth to properly deal with them due to other external circumstances like not being able to pay their rent and food and medicine at the same time

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Which are these sexually relevant situations?