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Physical violence vs psychological/verbal violence (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I hate how physical violence is (correctly) seen as a horrible thing while psychological/verbal violence is frowned upon but not as much as physical violence.

My brother used to bully me every day until I moved out into my grandparent's house. There were two instances where I snapped and attacked him physically, and ONLY THEN did my family intervene.

Due to my neurodevelopmental disabilities I am unable to verbally defend myself, so I was being harassed and bullied every day and I couldn't do anything about it.

And because psychological violence is not perceived to be as serious as physical violence, when I responded in the only way I was able to (physically) the situation changed from being perceived as "Al-Anda's brother being annoying" to "this must be stopped immediately".

He also threatened to call the police and shit, since physical violence is illegal while bullying and harassing someone every single fucking day isn't.

I swear, this shit makes me so angry...

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Many people lack a basic understanding of what non-verbal violence is and what it does.

I am really sorry that you are in such a situation right now. How long will it take until you can move out?

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Fortunately I already moved out in 2020 into my grandparent's house, thank you for your response!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 year ago

This is good to hear. In the past I always waited for the day when I turned 18 and could move out. It is sadly the only advice possible to give someone who is under 18 (US and Europa. Dont know about other countries).

The fact that violence is often understood as physical violence drives me crazy. Even governments around the world use methods of violence or torture that are not physical.

In a family context, it can be very bad because the family is still considered a social security. There are enough people who are trapped in such situations simply for economic reasons and can't get out (violence in marriage, for example).

By the way, I was amazed by the subreddit r/cptsd how certain things are similar as far as psychological violence is concerned. Even the words chosen sometimes are identical.