Recently diagnosed and in my 30s. I've always felt like everybody else have received a user manual that I've never gotten. A user manual on how to be human and how to interact with other humans. It's especially interacting with people that trigger my anxiety. I explained this to my psychologist. Her initial response was that I didn't seem like I had any issues interacting with her, so either that wasn't true or I'm just really good at pretending. Now I'm sitting here, going over what she said, second guessing myself, and I just don't know. This was relatively early on in my session, so I think she understood my anxiety later on. She definitely opened my eyes regarding being more aware of my own needs.
I don't know. Now I just have this nagging feeling of maybe I'm faking my anxiety in regards to socializing.
I'm glad that she didn't make you feel worse for your needs. If you need to stick it out with her do it. Just know it's okay to change providers if you feel that it is not working or you want to try other things. Maybe as you get more of a history and comfort level you can help her understand how certain phrasing is not helpful. Providers are human too. Though I really didn't like my previous providers they are human and their care philosophy just didn't line up with my needs. For my your provider sounds very frustrating but my needs are different than yours.
I needed to hear from someone else it's okay to change providers, and only you can decide if or when you want to do that.