I got a report on one of my posts, It was for the mods of lemmy.ml letting them know that porn was popping up on .ml. I went and checked lemmy.ml's instances and we are now in the blocked list. I know they had a number of large communities so this is just a heads up to everyone who may have been subbed to any.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again: Lemmy is a fantastic Reddit clone, and federation is great for persistence, but it completely lacks nuance in how content is delivered. Defederation is only going to further fragment the platform. No one is going to be totally happy with it until the onus is primarily on the individual, rather than the community or instance.
As a user, I want choice. Give me settings. Give me more control. Then if I see something I don't like, or something I'd rather change, that's on me. That sounds much better than hoping and waiting for a level-headed admin to figure it out for me, or making yet another account when they get it wrong.
We'll never get anywhere if all the admins are afraid of getting on everyone else's "bad side" for content they can barely control themselves.