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Wife bad
ExWife.
Also alimony can be given to the man as well if he decided to be the homemaker or stay at home parent.
Whoever gets paid more is the one who ends up owing down, doesn't matter if you have a dick or wind chimes down there.
How many women do you know who marry men who make less than they?
I know a small handful, they do exist
Yes, I agree. Despite my statement sounding absolutist, I know they are out there. I suspect they are quite rare. I know I've never met one, based on experience. I'm sure some of the women I've met are those types but there's no way for me to know without playing that game of Russian roulette.
Brother I think you might be overthinking it. When two people properly quick, money/income doesn't matter as long as y'all are a proper fit and you're able to make life work together happily.
I'm not an idiot. That was my belief for a long time. Experience showed me that doe not "just happen".
Thats not a product of women collectively deciding to marry someone richer. That's a product of the gender pay gap (not what most people think it is) and patriarchy (which hurts men too).
In places where women are not systemically dissuaded from high paying jobs, make as much as men do, have maternity and paternity leave, spousal incomes are about equal.
I disagree with that assertion, and I've seen this play out many times, with that nearly exact statement being the opening salvo. I will not engage and be drawn into a political debate that never ends well for anybody.
There is plenty of evidence concerning the difference between a blanket comparison of gross pay by gender vs pay comparisons in the same field of work - and I leave it to anybody who is curious to seek out that evidence on their own and draw their own conclusions.
Note my original question was not refuted, but justification was given.