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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

I suspect there's something else potentially going on. I'm not a therapist, so I can't offer advice, but I can share experiences.

I had a partner at one point that would jump to conclusions without context. She would assume I had done things that I had not, and blame me for it. Later in life, I learned that she had been projecting her insecurities on me. This may have been the easier route compared to dealing with the root causes.

Dealing with those root causes would have been incredibly painful and would require some serious reevaluation of her value structure and decision making. That's not a journey for the lighthearted.

My partner refused to go to therapy, and I think that was a mistake. I've been seeing a therapist for almost a year now and it's the best thing I could have done.

I hope my story helps you in some way.