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How would you feel if a person you've slept with asks for money after the deed (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Pretty much the title - I met a girl on Hinge, we decided to go grab a drink, then one thing left to another and we ended up sleeping together.

Now, the girl mentioned that she would have to see the doc if I went down on her. But I was drunk and didn't pay much attention.

When I mentioned it was also something she wanted, she agreed to take half, but also, that I have to pay her cab expenses home.

Would you or would you not feel like this person is an escort? It feels so strange being asked to pay after having sex. Or am i the only one?

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Basic STI panel, I guess. Idk how much they run these days. Probably depends on where you go (health department, planned parenthood, primary care physician) and whether you're insured or not.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Still doesn't compute. Going down on someone is the criteria for getting a panel done? Not the penetrative sex??

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah. Every bacterial STI, plus HPV and herpes (though I'm pretty sure they never test for herpes) can be transmitted via oral sex.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Yes I know. But it's also transmitted via normal sex. So why is oral the criteria rather than the regular sex?

"We can have sex as long as you don't go down on me because I don't want to get a panel done"

See- it doesn't make sense

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So I read it as he only went down on her, that oral sex was the sex that they had.

If they had vaginal intercourse AND he went down on her, I suspect that like a lot of people they used a barrier method for the PIV but not the oral. People don't tend to think of using barriers during oral even if condoms are pretty normalized for PIV.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

I suppose it can be read that way. When I read "we ended up sleeping together" I'm assuming everything was done. Barriers or no- I'm also assuming the same precautions (or lack of) were taken for everything