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I used the webapp version to browse, never registered. I find seeing photos of others, makes me jealous and self conscious, not saying bad about myself, just that I feel jealous of what features others have. Not healthy mindset for sure. I like it, more conversation focused, not "look what I have". Congrats to mastodon for being better community wise over fb or twitter.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (2 children)

If i compare to fb/twitter mstodon is better. However, mastodon has a lot of "instagram like" people posting on it and i don't like or feel comfortable with that aspect. I like text based and less image based. I don't like seeing people posting how they look.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Oh, yeah I feel you. Those sites are insecurity generators because people only post when they're at their best. They can foster creepy parasocial relationships too.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yeah, i've noticed they look the best always. It's not authentic, though some will type the truth of how they feel. I don't see it in photos very much on socials, outside of dating apps.

The word "insecurity" is strange to me. i see it thrown around a bit, yet find it doesn't make sense, when i think of what it means. "free from harm" or "afforded safety". Seeing others, doesn't cause me harm or loss of safety, just a sort of " body image issue", which makes more since. when i think of security, i think of a military base or defenses against imperialism etc, when i think of security. Hope that makes sense.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I get what you mean, sometimes words don't make sense to me either. According to etymonline the word secure comes from Latin securus. se- meaning "free from" and cura meaning "care." It originally meant "without care or fear, quiet, easy" or "careless, reckless, overconfident."

So I guess we can understand "insecure" as meaning "fearful, disquiet, uneasy." Or maybe "cares too much, underconfident."

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I don't like the negative way many use it towards others, though the older definition you shared makes sense why people call others it though.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That's fair, I sometimes see people use the word as an insult.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

The particular instance you are in may be a factor in the posts you see. It's the same as Lemmy, you can be on Lemmy.ml, or Lemmygrad, or Lemmy.world and the posts you see may change. It may be better to find an instance that works for your interests.