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Malicious Compliance

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People conforming to the letter, but not the spirit, of a request. For now, this includes text posts, images, videos and links. Please ensure that the “malicious compliance” aspect is apparent - if you’re making a text post, be sure to explain this part; if it’s an image/video/link, use the “Body” field to elaborate.

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[–] VirulentAura 34 points 1 year ago (2 children)

That's cool, except if only certain people with certain body configurations have the uncontrolled freedom to be themselves, that's still a problem.

Or, as long as people who do not identify with the body they were given are ostricized, there are problems. As long as there are people who are groped because their body is different, lynched because their skin is different, or kept out of certain rooms just because of growths on their bodies they have no control over, there are problems.

Just because you remove a label doesn't mean there isnt a problem any more.

[–] [email protected] -3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

In that case, is "patriarchy" the right label? Most men (racial minorities, non-cis, etc) face systematic oppression, so it doesn't seem like gender is the problem. Seems like oppression follows class lines, not gender, race, orientation, etc.

[–] Drivebyhaiku 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Maybe Kyriarchy works better for you? It describes a multi layered and interactive web of stacked series of oppressive factors that encompasses race, class, gender, sexual orientation, ablism issues etc.

Though under the definitions of patriarchy men are still oppressed. Young men and the poor are held in sway and looked at as disposable pawns and labor by the patriarchs - powerful men in the lead positions, like male heads of the family, but in this instance the 'family' is government, military, businesses and corperations, guilds, unions and bosses. The the buy in for those men at the bottom is that even a lowly man gets to feel like they are better at least than women. The act of being a woman is an automatic sort of failure state. Hence why men behaving in a feminine fashion are a threat. It subverts the hierarchy when someone willing chooses to behave as "lesser" of their own volition and seem happier for it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The the buy in for those men at the bottom is that even a lowly man gets to feel like they are better at least than women.

This hasn't been my experience, most authorities in my life have been women (teachers, bosses, etc). Even upper leadership in the company I currently work for has slightly more women than men. Obviously not everyone has the same experience, but I don't think the picture you tried to paint is a universal truth.

[–] Drivebyhaiku 1 points 1 year ago

I don't think it is a universal truth and never stated as such, particularly since we have a solid century of advocacy and protest dismantling these ideas. It's more that the original idea of "patriarchy"(which is a single concept within the body of feminism as socio-political theory and feminism is not a monolith ) isn't usually what people think. It doesn't mean men overall are the oneswho benefit but rather hierarchical established powers which are still legacy holdings of male dominated structures.

If you are in a space that is female dominated that still is not the overall norm. If you look at the most powerful business empires in the world only 1 in 10 is lead by a female CEO. E

It doesn't even have to be at the top.

For example : In my industry of film for instance the majority of departments are male dominated and even some of the ones that aren't hostile to women can have invisible greased poles which keep women at the bottom. It can be simple as bosses hiring on their friends onto crews. If their all male beer and pretzels buddies are their first four staff picks and a crew is only seven people then that can leave less than half the open spaces that are filled by merit. Even if the boss's motives aren't overtly sexist their lack of comfort being around women socially and favoring people they feel they relate to with personalities they enjoy because of similarity of life experience can mean that a smaller share of options are available to the unfavored group. The less of a group is represented the less they self advocate as well because they cannot build easy consensus. This means the merit hires are also more vulnerable to being replaced if they speak up or the work pool narrows where the nepotistic ones have security so any dip in the industry can hit those merit groups that much harder.

Fighting patriarchy often requires being conscious of how your personal choices, which are often by no means evil, are potentially narrowing the open spaces actually available to people who do not closely resemble yourself as a man.

It's not to say that women placed in positions of authority won't also potentially recreate these structures if they are uncomfortable with the company of men... But examples of Matriarchies are more fragile. Historically they have a habit of collapsing because one feature of patriarchy that matriarchy does not often have is historically patriarchy seeks to physically or socially isolate women from the public sphere and if they cannot do that in their own society they go off an subjugate and enslave women outside of their culture by force. Most Matriarch societies value men for their physical labor over their reproductive qualities (because lineages are always secure) which means that social isolation is simply not on the table whereas patriarchy of antiquity values secluding women to ensure a reproductive lineage. If a group cannot gather in numbers they cannot organize or resist hence why a lot of societies that our modern society is based off of basically kept their women as pets confined to the domestic sphere and told that they as a group were simply expressing a different form of excellence.

Women's equality is precarious. History is rife with examples of them rising in autonomy before men slamed them back down the into forced servitude once again and re solidifying their dominance over the social sphere.

[–] tenitchyfingers 10 points 1 year ago

Oppression follows ALL those lines. Oppression and privilege are intersections. That’s why a woman can be black but also be rich and live a better life than a dude who’s poor.

[–] VirulentAura 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I don't care if you call it The Wibbly Fuck Problem. Stop worrying about what it's called and just do something about it. Damn. Everyone always worry about the unimportant shit.

[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 year ago

What are you doing to stop the ruling class from oppressing the rest of us? Seems like you're just posting on Lemmy, same as me.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I see a lot of mouth and no trousers/skirt in this statement.

[–] VirulentAura 2 points 1 year ago

Pervert. I don't have to show you my ass just so you don't be a dick.