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So here's the thing, every time I try to move away from Facebook messenger I run into the same problem, nobody else in my friends or family actually want to use a secure, private messenger app like signal or telegram, my wife, my parents, my in-laws, my friends they're ALL on Facebook and they will never take signal seriously enough to actually use it, it really bums me out that there are these far superior options but without anyone else using them they're pointless..

Anyway what apps do you use to stay in touch with people?

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[–] Auskeek 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah I work on a similar system

WhatsApp in general Telegram for the wife Signal for the wife whilst one of us is working (with notifications on silent)

SMS for everything else.

It's nice having things compartmentalized.

[–] petercockroach 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Why does wifey get her own app(s)?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Presumably because they want a higher degree of privacy / urgency when talking about their plans or the intimate details of their lives, sharing selfies or pics of the kids, fighting, flirting / sexting, and when sharing nudes, but OP doesn’t care about that higher degree of privacy for their friends who they don’t discuss those things with.

And the reason to have a separate app for work safe conversations only with her makes sense since it allows conversations to be nsfw without any extra worry (e.g., will I accidentally open this later when not at work? What if I think you’re off work already but you had to stay late to have a conversation with your boss?) or hassle.

And only having one app for everything else could be because he doesn’t have nsfw conversations there and thus can safely check them at work or because he doesn’t have important conversations there and thus doesn’t need to check them while at work. Or both.

[–] randomTingler 1 points 1 year ago

I was doing the same. We did not want to be showing that we are online to our contacts.

So, used a different app.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Not sure if you alredy know this, but just in case - you can send messages silently for recipient in Telegram.

Just long press Send button and you will get 3 more options: send without sound, send when online and schedule.