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Comic Strips is a community for those who love comic stories.

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The post can be a single image, an image gallery, or a link to a specific comic hosted on another site (the author's website, for instance).
The comic must be a complete story.
If it is an external link, it must be to a specific story, not to the root of the site.
You may post comics from others or your own.
If you are posting a comic of your own, a maximum of one per week is allowed (I know, your comics are great, but this rule helps avoid spam).
The comic can be in any language, but if it's not in English, OP must include an English translation in the post's 'body' field (note: you don't need to select a specific language when posting a comic).
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[–] [email protected] 74 points 1 day ago (33 children)

I'm finding very little of this thread resonates with me. I have a toddler who I love and get to spend a whole day off with during the week. I still get to do my running, cycling, rock climbing. I get some reading done most nights.

I've mostly sacrificed video games and social life, but rock climbing is social and a happy child is far more rewarding than games.

There are sacrifices, but I don't feel like I've given up my life. Is this because I don't live in the USA?

[–] kalleboo 5 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Same here. Some of the things that have helped make our situation easier:

Where we live, by law my wife got a year per kid off of work for childcare. I don't know how people do this without a full-time parent.
Since I work remotely, if my wife had a rough night, she could sleep during the day without worrying the kid was going to kill themselves because I would be around.
Our kids were definitely on the easier side, especially our first. They almost never cried for zero reason (90% of crying was quickly remediated with the "diapers, hungry, sleepy" checklist), they quickly started sleeping well, etc. Some people have complete devil kids, colic, etc.

What we gave up was doing things together as a couple (romantic dinners etc), as we always had to either bring the kids or stay home with them, but we could still do things on our own when we wanted to. We have family nearby, but they deemed themselves "too old" to look over the kids when they were still babies. Now that our kids are in elementary school age they've been able to sleep over once or twice a year when we get to do a parents getaway for our anniversary etc.

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