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What do I want for my birthday? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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It's that time of year again when my partner gets upset with me because I'm not the kind of person that ever wants anything...

My partner always wants this or that. They mention things they want all the time. So I write down what I hear. Gift holidays are covered easily because I try to pay attention.

I feel bad though. I know it's hard when I don't talk about things I want. And when asked, I don't know what to say. It only ends up causing me anxiety.

This is so dumb. What does a person who doesn't want things want for their birthday?

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Mines comin up as well... I always struggled to be in the "here and now" and been too busy for years and dropped most of my hobbies, found a very old camera that I bought in 2010-11 from the storage room... Its too big, started looking at what is currently available, found Ricoh griiix, saw some forums with the sensor results and pocketability; might get me back into photography, back into "here and now"..... Take a look if you are into that.. Just leaving this thought here....

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago

It's a great idea. I did nearly the same exact thing some years ago. It helped a lot. It grounded me. Rejuvenated me. I want to be there again. TMI: since then, life has blown up... more than once... and left me pretty mangled. Hobbies and those life giving things dissipated. Mental health declined again. I started drowning in work and survival. But slowly I'm getting into a better place. I miss those walks with camera in hand. Watching life unfold around me. Capturing creatures living life in all their funny ways. Yes, I quite liked that. And while it may not happen in time for my bday, that craving is there and that's a good thing. I hope you're able to spend more time in the here and now, with camera in hand. 💜