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How does one make friends if they have never had any irl before? (lemmy.fmhy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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So ive never had a true friend before most of them treated me like trash or were just horrible so i gues sive never had a real friend before. becasue of that i have trust isues so i dont make online friends and it dosnet feel the same as meeting someone across the street.

ive never had a lover either i kinda feel very alone which is pretty sad honestly and ive had a har dlife so far which dosent help. im depressed and horny and those two are bad together so what do i do. i find it ofly har dto make real friends and i feel very limited too and i get scared when talking to people or meeting someone.

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 2 years ago (2 children)

The best way to make friends, especially as an adult, is to pick a hobby, and start going to events related to that hobby.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

This truly is the best way

[–] kadu 2 points 2 years ago

For absolute sure, this is the way.

Find a martial art you like, a sport, the gym, fishing, Magic the Gathering shops with casual play sessions, whatever it is, you'll be surrounded by people having a good time doing something you already have in common.