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[CW: misogyny] First experience with misogynistic men (pawb.fun)

submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[CW: misogyny] First experience with misogynistic men

I'd like to post about one time when I somehow passed enough as a guy, even though I didn't bind and overall was dressed more "ambiguously". It was a taxi driver that was talking to me about women being an objects for sex as if I'd relate. I tried to argue, but overall I have learned defensive mechanism to laugh at uncomfortable situations. Friend told me after that situation that men in general don't have to laugh if something others have said sucks ass, because men are more allowed to disagree, so I guess I have to unlearn some stuff to deal with it better.

In general, I hate the fact that the more you pass the more comfortable cis men are with saying disgusting shit about women around you, especially since I did (and still am) go through misogyny. I hope I'll be able to deal with it better in a future.

If you have any tips, I'd be glad to hear, this situation definitely made me use only public transport if possible for a while 😭

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 week ago

Yep. It's just a part of life running into people like that. Doesn't mean it doesn't suck, but as you get more experience with it you'll find your own ways of pushing back. A good comeback is "oh, so you see your mother as a sex object?" or something like that.