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I (29M) am not very sure what Im getting off my chest, but I just wanted to talk to someone. (self.mentalhealth)

submitted 2 weeks ago by AlonelyMuppet to c/mentalhealth

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I figure I should share a little about myself so here goes.

I grew up in a segregated community that also happened to be religious, and as such was raised that way. I no longer identify with who I was raised as. However, due to the nature of my upbringing, my focus was more on growing academically and professionally.

I'm an immigrant, I completed my Masters degree (Chemistry) about a yearish ago, employment was rough but I finally got a job though it's not in my field.

I am taking this as an opportunity to focus on myself, decipher who I am, and getting to know myself better. Hopefully, in time, I'll be able to transition to a job in my field. But it's been lonely, I am in a new town, I left my friends behind, and I have come to realize that I have a rather negative world view.

I have never been with anyone romantically, at least as far as physically is concerned. Dating is not something that I am interested in right now, because I want to focus on "fixing" myself, before trying to meet someone.

I've begun to worry that I won't succeed in life. I haven't attained what I wanted professionally, I'm just starting out in a new country. I have a limited romantic experience. My mind worries that perhaps I made too many mistakes to where I cannot gain the future I had wished for.

Challenge my outlook? Give me your tidbits of information/advice? Thank you for taking the time to read this. :)

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 weeks ago

I think it's important to think on what "succeed in life" means to you, really. Not some ideas others told you is success, or what a culture tells you is. A career? A relationship? Kids? I've found I'm a lot happier focusing on living in the moment, focusing on each day individually. I was raised with the mentality that I needed to get a career, get married, have kids, raise a family. I don't want any of that. Obviously I can't say what you want, but self exploration and questioning is important. Finding community with others is hard, romantically or otherwise, and the best I can offer there is that there's a lot of us that feel similarly to you. Even if you don't achieve whatever goals you set yourself, you can find a way to be alright.