Need to let loose a primal scream without collecting footnotes first? Have a sneer percolating in your system but not enough time/energy to make a whole post about it? Go forth and be mid: Welcome to the Stubsack, your first port of call for learning fresh Awful you’ll near-instantly regret.
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The post Xitter web has spawned soo many “esoteric” right wing freaks, but there’s no appropriate sneer-space for them. I’m talking redscare-ish, reality challenged “culture critics” who write about everything but understand nothing. I’m talking about reply-guys who make the same 6 tweets about the same 3 subjects. They’re inescapable at this point, yet I don’t see them mocked (as much as they should be)
Like, there was one dude a while back who insisted that women couldn’t be surgeons because they didn’t believe in the moon or in stars? I think each and every one of these guys is uniquely fucked up and if I can’t escape them, I would love to sneer at them.
(Taking over for Gerard this time. Special thanks to him for starting this.)
Why would you do this to me?
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Great leadership is born under pressure.Anyone can perform when things are easy. Real leadership shines in moments of pressure.
Most people react. Great leaders respond.
Here's how you can too:
❌ "You need to calm down" ↳ Why: Instantly escalates tension ↳ Instead: "I'm noticing we're both getting tense. Should we take a break?"
❌ "This is a complete disaster" ↳ Why: Spreads panic and paralyzes action ↳ Instead: "What's the one thing we absolutely must get right?"
❌ "You should have known better" ↳ Why: Creates shame, not learning ↳ Instead: "What can we learn from this for next time?"
❌ "It's not my fault" ↳ Why: Signals lack of ownership ↳ Instead: "I may have contributed to this. Help me understand where"
❌ "Just figure it out" ↳ Why: Shows poor leadership ↳ Instead: "Can we clarify what success looks like for both of us?"
❌ "Why isn't this done yet?" ↳ Why: Creates defensiveness ↳ Instead: "What's the most immediate barrier we need to address?"
❌ "That's not my problem" ↳ Why: Destroys team cohesion ↳ Instead: "We're on the same team. Let's figure this out together"
❌ "I don't have time for this" ↳ Why: Devalues others' priorities ↳ Instead: "I want to give this proper attention. Can we schedule 30 minutes?"
❌ "I already told you that" ↳ Why: Makes people shut down ↳ Instead: "Let me explain this another way"
❌ "That's how we've always done it" ↳ Why: Kills innovation ↳ Instead: "What if we tried a different approach?"
The truth: Reputations are fragile. And rebuilding them is expensive.
P.S. Which response do you want to use more often?
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❌ “Why would you do this to me?” ↳ Why: Instantly creates tension. ↳ Instead: “What did I do wrong, and how can I do better next time?”
Just incredible that good leadership equals gaslighting yourself into an abusive relationship