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Do you want people to care or do you want to lecture people who don't agree with you. People like to give lectures on politics, but no one listens to them. If you want people to care you have to care about them.
Bingo. This is the fundamental disconnect I encounter on a daily basis. All anyone wants to do is lecture me about how they are right, and I am wrong if I think different than them. And if you don't give into them they simply start insulting or shaming you, hoping they can emotionally abuse you into compliance with their beliefs. Or they just think you are evil and divide the world up into hyperbolic terms.
That isn't how you learn or win people over to your side. All it does is promote ignorance & alienation, and that's what we have an overabundance of in our current society.
I'm apparently old-fashioned/out of date, but I went to college to learn how to understand, assess, and communicate with other people... seems like that is no longer what people are taught or at least, no longer value it.
It's less about valuing communication and more about the dopamine hit. Delivering that lecture and educating the simpletons feels really good.
Yep. Anger and egotism are proven my studies to basically be like taking a hit of cocaine. It gets people off and they get addicted to it.
Lemmy is my cocaine.