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Bingo. This is the fundamental disconnect I encounter on a daily basis. All anyone wants to do is lecture me about how they are right, and I am wrong if I think different than them. And if you don't give into them they simply start insulting or shaming you, hoping they can emotionally abuse you into compliance with their beliefs. Or they just think you are evil and divide the world up into hyperbolic terms.
That isn't how you learn or win people over to your side. All it does is promote ignorance & alienation, and that's what we have an overabundance of in our current society.
I'm apparently old-fashioned/out of date, but I went to college to learn how to understand, assess, and communicate with other people... seems like that is no longer what people are taught or at least, no longer value it.
The only relevant question is - are you wrong?
Is your take actually valid? Based on sound imperical data? Is not fallacious? Does your reasoning stand up to scrutiny? Is it fact, or a belief? Is it a justified belief?
Ultimately you shouldn't need to be coddled if you have any allegiance to the truth.
It's one thing if a 3-year old gets 2+2 wrong. It's another when it's a 33 year old. Would you waste energy on that, or would you assume that the 33-year old doesn't care enough to bother no matter what approach is used?
The unfortunate reality is that democracy as a vehicle for progress is a failure because not enough people have an allegiance to the truth, nor have the basic epistemological tools for determining what's knowledge, what's belief, what's a hypothesis, what's theory or what's valid evidence or any idea of what the scientific method even is, or what an axiom is etc.
They favour their delusions (I don't mean religion specifically) over truth.
Truth doesn't feel good. People want to feel good.
Psychologically it's not different than biology in the sense that people don't want to work out and eat healthy... they want to be lazy and eat energy dense food.
Yes but like exercise, intellectual exercise feels good too. The question is why do some people not do it.
It's less about valuing communication and more about the dopamine hit. Delivering that lecture and educating the simpletons feels really good.
Yep. Anger and egotism are proven my studies to basically be like taking a hit of cocaine. It gets people off and they get addicted to it.
Lemmy is my cocaine.