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Friendship kiss (latte.isnot.coffee)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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For a city that is all about showing public acceptance of gays and trans, why do the men seem so uptight as a matter of respect and greeting, for a man to kiss another man's face, on the cheek of course?

Explain how people are all for 2 men frnech kissing, but a friendship kiss is too sexual, there seems to be a contradiction.

Are men not comfortable showing a bond with other men but let's love the gays? I grew up with a kiss on the forehead or cheek is strictly general affection to show a sentimental care for the person.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yeah; I’ve got friends from other cultures, so I’ve witnessed this particular culture shock many times. As a multigenerational native of the area, I always found it odd even before I learned that other cultures do things differently.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Considering how clear the local message is that in order to fully respect somone you keep a physical distance from them, no affection of any kind, it's made the people of this city for cold and have no soul.

I'm more comfortable with immigrants than Canadians.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Please try not to take it personally. It's just a different culture. Here's some more elaboration on the topic: https://freelymagazine.com/2019/03/29/to-hug-or-not-to-hug-physical-contacts-vary-across-cultures/

There's also a tragic aspect to the low-contact culture. Episode 17 of Season 1 of the show Welcome to Wrexham actually explores this topic really well: https://www.themoviedb.org/tv/126929-welcome-to-wrexham/season/1/episode/17 (also just a great ⚽ documentary)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Thank you for those links, I sent you a message on Masta