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In what way are you "a dude or a girl at birth" if "dude or girl" is something people decide by how you look and not by your biology? And how do you explain masculinity or femininity being culturally relative? Men hold hands and kiss each other on the cheeks in some cultures. Those expressions of affection are masculine, as are skirts and well manicured nails in other cultures. There are some culture where being thin and vain are considered masculine. And some cultures where being stocky and blunt are considered feminine.
Femininity and masculinity are 2 words that essentially mean "of men and women". It's just a roundabout way of referring to genders. A feminine man is gender non-conforming, their femininity goes against their assigned gender. They are presumed to be masculine because of their assigned gender, and therefore discouraged from being feminine. Allowing people to self determine their gender directly liberates them from this process.
If you're willing to allow someone like me to exist, someone with a vagina and estrogen and breasts who was nonetheless assigned male at birth, what functionally is preventing you from respecting my identity as a woman? Why is that unacceptable to you? What is being damaged by acknowledging my gender? Language isn't sacred, and I feel like I've more than pointed out already that the word woman is not determined by someone's biology. So what is the reason why you insist that society affirm and uphold the right of other people to tell me what gender I am? If it's not biology and it is restrictive, literally giving me rules for who I am and who I'm allowed to be and how people must treat me, like it's demonstrably severely damaging to my mental well-being, then why is it necessary for assigned gender to still be upheld? Why is it okay for you to continue to assert that about me? You disrespect me and my experiences when you continue to call me a man.
You also say that you're glad I made myself happy, but earlier said "9 more days ❤️". A clear attempt to make me feel threatened and unsafe because of political persecution at the hands of the upcoming change in presidency. If you're actually glad I myself happy, if it actually matters to you that I am healthy and have good quality of life, why do you promote support and endorse misinformation that is a direct threat to my safety? Why do you insist that society should take actions that would directly harm me? How can my well-being matter to you if in the same breath you disrespect my dignity as a person?
And sorry because I still would address as ma’am or ms.
But still in my head you are a man. You were born with a penis. Take the pills away and what happens?
I highly doubt you would agree that I'm a man if we met. Even if you could tell I was trans id still be willing to bet you wouldn't be able to internally conceive of me as a man. I am very conventionally feminine and dress and present myself in a way that is very in line with how other women my age dress and present.
I have had reassignment surgery, so nothing would happen if the pills were taken away. My body does not produce any more testosterone than a cisgender woman's does. Even if I hadnt had reassignment surgery, biology still isn't how we determine gender. My gender wouldn't change in the absence of medication.
Yeah okay buddy
I can't tell what you're responding to here. Are you saying you know how I look? I never said I was pretty, nor did I say that you definitely wouldn't be able to tell i was trans. I said that actually speaking with and interacting with me I feel you'd have a hard time conceiving of me as a man. I do not fall in line with western masculinity in really any way. I'm also very confident in my identity. You calling me a man doesn't make me feel uncomfortable, just disrespected.