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I'm sorry this happened. It fucking sucks.
Let me try to help.
Your world was shattered and you need a new baseline. One of the (many, many) painful elements of transitioning relationships is loss of routine. It feels like shit because when you hit that old routine, you give yourself a dose of pain as you're reminded of your reality. Recognize that right now, your previous life is gone and routines need updated.
How do you think about things? I'm a visual, hands on, person. If it were me, I'd grab my digital notebook and start planning.
I need to plan the big beats of the day, and then let the other variables guide me.
I'd break it into three sections: My morning routine, afternoon, and evening.
How are important things like meals and work tackled? Don't just think about these things, live them! Mentally think about work on Monday. Did your ex give you a ride? You need a new routine. Did they pack your lunch? You need a new routine. Did they cook dinner? Etc.
Finally, how do these routines change for the weekend? 3 more paths.
Good luck. This isn't easy and it feels like shit. I hope anything I said is helpful.
DM me directly if you have and specific questions or want to share personal details that aren't appropriate in a forum setting.
If I can help you I will. You're not alone.
The new routine idea is fantastic! I will message you.