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relationships and fear of abandonment (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/mentalhealth

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Hey everyone, I'm pretty sure I have a deep rooted fear of abandonment, I'm scared most of the time that my friends will leave me once they find someone more fun or interesting to be with, I don't outwardly act like it but it's really like that and it makes me feel anxious to start new relationships, I don't know if I can trust anyone actually likes me, it's pretty bad because there is this girl I LOVE whomst I spend all my time with she's told me she loved me AND I STILL CAN'T BRING MYSELF TO ACTUALLY BELIEVE HER. It's destroying me. I feel like no one I meet will meet my need for reassurance, it's probably making me needy which I can't help, but which definitely makes me less desirable of a person.

How do I even get better? I don't know why I'm like this...

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[–] Zeusz13 2 points 1 week ago

I work as a psychologist, fears of abbandonment are a lot more common than many think. If you are this afraid I'd recommend going to psychotherapy to sort it out. It can help a lot if you put the effort in.