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What is the most unhelpful advice you have received? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 2 years ago by axolittl to c/[email protected]

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I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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[–] lambchop 26 points 2 years ago (6 children)

When I would have a problem with my body like shoulder impingement and ask for advice, I would often be told by people "nah, you're too young too have that"

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Hey, what did you end up doing about that? I allegedly have one in my left shoulder and the doctor is acting like there’s not really anything I can do about it.

[–] lambchop 1 points 2 years ago

It bugs me when told "nothing you can do" what they really mean is "the problem is chronic so the recovery will take a long time. Patient compliance is often very low and most people won't last the months required for a solution so I'm not going to waste my time. I can help more people if I focus my efforts elsewhere." If you're willing to put in the time, you can fix this. And I suggest you do, if you do nothing impingement inflames each time it happens, decreasing the space in your shoulder, increasing the likelihood, etc.

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