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~30 year old Lemmings who live in apartments, do you make friends with your neighbours? (lemm.ee)

submitted 5 days ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Beyond the polite "Hey, how's it going". Close enough to hang out at each other's apartment, maybe even ask them to water your plants or feed your pet while you're away.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Nope. Neighbors in apartments change far too frequently for various reasons - life changes, rent hikes, property issues, etc. It very rarely seems worth the time to invest in a potential acquaintanceship. The only people that ever seem to be eager to be friends in my experiences end up being the elderly and the younger folks anyway.

It also makes it far more awkward when you have to eventually have a neighborly conversation and ask them to not leave their trash in the hallway or keep their volume down or something else minor.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I've noticed it's mostly the elderly who try to engage in conversations more, I usually chalk it up to them being more lonely and having a less busy schedule

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 days ago

I think that's a part of it. They're also usually the ones who are likely to end up being longer-term residents so they're more invested.

I don't mind chatting, but usually when a I'm outside my apartment I'm in the process of doing something. Personally I hate getting trapped in small talk when I'm just trying to spend 60 seconds to take my trash out or walk to my car.