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[–] Caboose12000 9 points 1 year ago (4 children)

hot take: kids should just use their parents first names

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

to me it feels like keeping distance instead of having a good relationship, only second to "sir".

[–] Caboose12000 2 points 1 year ago

it's certainly not the norm to call parents by thier first names in a loving way, but there's no reason it has to stay that way. Most people don't use nicknames for their best friends, siblings, some people even use first names with their spouses, and that doesn't mean these people are loved any less. using first names isn't inherently distant/cold.

but at the end of the day honestly I think what you call your loved ones isn't that important so if you're more comfortable using mom/dad, that's ok too

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Well good luck teaching your baby your actual name if your name is hard to pronounce.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

then the last name or a nick name

[–] Caboose12000 1 points 1 year ago

they'd have a lifetime to practice it lol plus a toddler mispronouncing your name would probably just be seen as cute for most people

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

my siblings do this. it mainly worked/adapted to this because:

  • our parents gall each other with the first name
  • it was annoiying for them to differentiate our 5 different voices to all the other childs at the playground or parades and other public events where a bunch of kids where present

Edit: and i like the system more because i was very annoyed that i had to call other parents: {friends} mom, can i have a drink? because never heard their name. Thatvwas already infurating during kindergarden times

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

our parents gall each other

Yes, this happens sometimes.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

never going to correct that :p

[–] crossal 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

a lot of other childs thought it is weird so i think your reaction is pretty normal ^^

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I grew up like this, using my parents first names. I started using mom/dad as a place denominator after they divorced, though.

I'm at dads is easier than using the first name, as that could mean other people's places, too.

So it's useful in a family that's united, and everybody gets it, but it's ironically harder to maintain after a separation. At least in my experience.

[–] Caboose12000 3 points 1 year ago

that's a really interesting perspective, I guess it might also be difficult for people who have friends that share a first name with their parents, I could totally see not wanting to call your dad John if that's what you already call your best friend.