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Does anyone else not care about masculinity or "maleness"? (hilariouschaos.com)

submitted 1 week ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I'm a straight man and I'm comfortable in my gender and sexual identity etc I just don't feel the need to do anything stereotypically "masculine". Maybe it's just because I never felt like labels or categories define you or limit you. I just do me and what I enjoy and don't worry too much about societal expectations.

But I read on here a lot of people who do seem to care about this stuff. Saying things like "the man always wants to be the provider". Talking about what it means to be a man in the 21st century, and how masculinity has changed.

I'm not denying these people's experiences, just curious about the difference- why you do feel it's important to asset a masculine role or identity? Or why not? What even is "masculinity"?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

I have typically male interests like fishing, building stuff and throwing knives, but I also enjoy growing plants and making fancy cakes. I like what I like and I genuinely don't give a shit if I'm supposed to.

It's genuinely not a big thing in Scandinavian countries to have more weakly defined gender roles. Plenty of women in construction and plenty of male primary school teachers etc.