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I’m tall, attractive, have a great job and own a house, and I still don’t get matches. Once I gave up and started looking in real life I didn’t have a problem.
I don’t trust apps because they have a vested interest in keeping you swiping.
Also, there is a culture of not being satisfied. It's kinda like a gambling. "This one is nice, but maybe I can do better" and people keep rolling through people they would be good with, because they're looking for perfection. There are so many offers after all and besides, it works in the movies and the television series! There must be that one perfect soulmate and nothing else can be there in this world.
I think xkcd did a "what if" about finding your soulmate. from what I remember, if you were on a conveyor belt, seeing ten people a second, and you'd know your soulmate the instant you set eyes on them, it would take 20 years on average to find them.
edit: my numbers were a little off. here is the actual page
Does that take into account that the time it takes might decrease for your age cohort, gradually? Because eventually, some people die, some already find theirs, eliminating them from the soul mate-o-matcher pool...