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How do you cheer yourself up after a rough day? Or a rough year? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago by Dinodicchellathicc to c/[email protected]

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Starting to feel crushed by the weight of the world, riddled with guilt and disappointment in myself over my choices. Nothing I can do about the past though.

What are some of the ways you guys get yourselves out of a bad headspace?

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[–] zombie_kong 47 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I take stock.

What are my personal positive achievements?

Where am I right now, is it a good place?

It doesn’t have to be my final destination, but is it good?

If I strip away all the fringe and lingering bullshit, am I safe and happy in this specific point in time?

Like right now: I am on the couch drinking coffee on a Saturday morning. I have three dogs with me. I am safe and I am loved.

What happens tomorrow is future zombie_kong’s problem. Not todays.

Edit: you got this. It’s nothing. A mere blip in this adventure we call living.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Another thing that I like is considering not what I can do to “change my life in a year” but “what can I do tomorrow to improve my life even a little bit right now?”

Instead of getting caught up on larger things that might take years to achieve, if I consider something I can change right now that will make tomorrow a better day, those changes will add up much more quickly and noticeably.

Even if I can’t think of something, that’s fine. I can accept that, and just move on to the next day. The important thing is to ask myself this every day, so that I can give myself the option of making that change and having that reflection.

[–] zombie_kong 5 points 1 year ago

I like that.

Life can be overwhelming. Small adjustments can go a long way.