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How do I stop slef sabotage and procrastination? (mander.xyz)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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I used to be good at time management and very motivated in my career. Then about two years ago I lost a close friend over a strong disagreement and then lost my job.

Slowly but surely I became a bit depressed and had some physical health issues. I'm seeing a therapist already, and a few months ago I finally managed to get a plebe job at a retailer, but when it comes to doing my personal work that would open doors in my industry I just can't seem to find the time and motivation to do it.

Don't get me wrong. I got plenty of time available, I just find myself being ridiculously avoidant or distracted or tired, you get the idea. And, no, I don't use social media much, I don't videogame or binge shows. I just get distracted with house chores or simply overthinking.

I've already tried lists, planning and goal setting ( all this comes naturally to me), but it makes no difference.

I've tried reducing the expectations and goals, no difference. I still don't do anything.

I tried apps to keep track of my progress; also useless.

I've even considered finding a life coach, but I get the feeling they're a scam. Unfortunately I don't have any friends or relatives that can help me stay on track with my goals.

TLDR I'm getting a bit desperate here. Any suggestions welcome. Thanks.

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[–] anonymous111 2 points 2 months ago

I do this:

Tell myself I'm not going to do it. What ever it is, I'm not going to do it.
Do the bare minimum thing like: open up a word document, turn on a tap to wash dishes, take something out of a box.
By commencing the task I'll usually default into doing the next part like reading the document, washing a dish, sorting something out.

Additional tips:

Break big things into small chunks.
Dont get overloaded. If your a room do it one draw at a time so you can stop when ever. Getting trapped in a "I can't sleep until this is finished" task is a trap.
Lists to keep track.

P.S. I was in recruitment 13 years ago and once thought about throwing myself down the stairs to get out of work. I did that job for 2x years and used it to move to a better industry.

You can make change in your life.

Good luck, we're all counting on you :)