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What is the most unhelpful advice you have received? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago by axolittl to c/[email protected]

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I'll go first: "You have to have children when you're young," told to me when I was in my late 20s, with no desire to ever have kids, and no means to support them, by someone divorced multiple times with at least one adult child who does not speak to them.

Also: Responding to "How do I deal with this problem?" questions with "Oh, don't worry about it, it's enough that you're even thinking about it!"

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[–] axolittl 51 points 1 year ago (2 children)

"Don't be a quitter" is like saying "Fuck your boundaries. Stay in toxic situations no matter how bad they get."

[–] JoeClu 5 points 1 year ago

If I'm sick of something, I don't quit, I change direction.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

"Don't be a quitter" is something that makes sense if you're in the middle of a board game or the likes. It definitely shouldn't be applied to big things like jobs or relationships.