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How can I "support" my family from a distance if they don't like the idea of receiving money from me? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by whitecold to c/[email protected]

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Edit: THANK YOU EVERYONE, there has been so many great ideas, and it was really eye-opening. I've decided to save up money for now in case of an emergency, and surprise them with something this Christmas. Also will make sure to call often, and visit them when possible. I'm seriously grateful to everyone who has shared their opinion!

I've recently moved out, so I can no longer help out with household duties (like cooking, cleaning, gardening, etc), which is what I used to do to help them - mind you they are not elderly, still actively working, so I just wanted to help them have more free time for hobbies and such.

Since I'm no longer there physically, I can obviously not help with these anymore, and they are both very much against the idea of spending money on cleaners, gardeners and such (to be fair, I'm also not really into the idea) - they are also very much against the idea of receiving money from me. The problem is, I don't know how else I could help, if I can't chime in for household expenses.

I'm really curious what others do to support their family from afar without directly sending money being involved?

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[–] EbenezerScrew 9 points 2 months ago

Besides money, a great way to support your parents is to stay in touch. It took me way too long to realize that I can call my mom just to say hello and have a quick chat.

Now I try to call and check in as much as possible. During most of those calls are when I find out if there is anything else that they need. Without those conversations, though it would never come up, since they don't want to bother me.