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Do you guys have safe spots when you get overwhelmed? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by Bipolarsilence to c/[email protected]

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I'm having a shit start to my week already. It feels like no one cares and whenever I try to reach out I'm just put off. Tried to talk to my teacher but he just reccommended me to my counselor, who is out of office. Tried to talk to a hotline but my text wouldn't go through because my signal was shit. Tried to make a forum on reddit but post gets taken down.

Whenever I feel like this I just hole myself up in the bathroom. In 6th grade I would go to the bathroom in Spanish class to just cry, but it got to the point where the girls would make fun of me for using it often so I stopped going in that class.

Sorry for venting. The question is do you guys have a safe spot you hide in when you feel down? And if so where? Because bathrooms aren't good for me

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

You can learn to meditate anywhere.

It's like any other skill, you have to put some effort in at the start, but the results are worth it.

You don't need meditation tapes, candles, or anything else.

Find a quiet place, sit down, close your eyes and try to find a quiet spot in your mind. A beach or a mountain top or grandma's kitchen; wherever you feel most serene.

You can just count "one, two one, two" as you breath in and out.

Just try to keep your thoughts quiet for ten seconds to start. Then work up to 30 seconds, and then a minute.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Anyone can meditate.

You don't have to imagine the beach or the mountains. Just find a quiet spot in your mind. Some folks just look at the inside of their eyelids.

It took me a long time to get the racing thoughts to settle down. One thing I would do is close my eyes and start the meditation by thinking about fireworks going off. After a few explosions it was easy to tell myself it was time to relax.

Inhale on 'one,' hold a beat and then exhale on 'two.' Repeat.

Even if it's five seconds to start it's a beginning.

You can also do it while walking or riding a bike. Obviously you don't close your eyes, but you try to think about nothing but the next step or push on the pedal.