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Off My Chest: I just had a very long talk with my father (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 months ago by [email protected] to c/adhd

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That ended with me finally explaining to him how the way he and my mother treated me as a child, with undiagnosed (and really not even conceptually understood at the time) ADHD caused me lasting trauma that persists to this day. I’m a 45 year old man, and I cried.

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[–] Mighty 6 points 2 months ago (4 children)

If you would, could you tell how you initiated that talk? I just turned 40 and I need to have the same talk...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I'm not OP, but I wanted to wish you good luck.

I was diagnosed in my 50s after my parents had passed, so I can't do what you want to do. But one thing I've found with a neurospicy brain is - there are bad things and good things associated with it. For example, I am really good at learning new things, so I know a little bit about many subjects (and admittedly deep knowledge about some things that don't matter very much). But that can be a marketable skill.

Finding techniques that work for you can help minimize the bad stuff, while maximizing the good stuff. For example, me making physical lists helps me to unburden my brain and concentrate on other tasks. Checking off tasks when complete is a physical reminder of doing stuff and gives me a feeling of accomplishment.

It's the only brain you've got. You'll need to find out what works for you, and write that shit down so you don't forget! 😎 But on your talk to yourself and others, and to that, I think it's important to frame both the bad and the good.

Best of luck to you!

[–] Mighty 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

Thank you. I'll save your comment to read it again :)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

Make a reminder to read it again later

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