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Anything that makes you apply your hand to your face.
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My daughter is almost 5 and I’ve made a conscious effort to stop doing whatever I’m doing if she says stop or no.
For example, tickling. If I’m tickling and she says stop, I stop immediately with no back talk.
Or if I’m copying her in a joking way (we both do it to each other from time to time) and she says stop, that’s it. We’re done.
When I’m snuggling with her after reading books before bed, she feels comfortable enough to say, “you can go now” and I that’s it. I leave with no complaints.
In non-safety situations I ask if I can hold her hand. If she says no, that’s it, I’m not holding her hand. Parking lots are a different matter.
I will continue this throughout her entire upbringing so that if (ok, when) someone continues to do something she has said stop or no to, it will be unambiguously wrong to her.
Later when I explain that “no” is a complete sentence, it should feel intuitive.
Boy is she in for a ride awakening when she goes out into the world. Kids like yours don't fare well when their world view gets shattered the first time.
I mean isn't that most kids though? First time or in the world no matter how you do it is a shock.
What OP is doing is just the first steps to what I'm guessing is going to be a continuing education about how is ok to say no and should be respected. It isn't the end of the road for the conversation about no